Last week I talked about the importance of "finding one's voice". This week I want to share with you two cents of my findings while on that path; which is a continuous one.
We all feel deep down that we have something to share with the world. That we have a mission. And I personally believe we do! However, there are usually two questions that show up before we get started:
1) what? and 2) how?
In the past years, during my search to find my own voice, there were moments of feeling paralysed and overwhelmed by not knowing where to go. However, I'm a kind of person who doesn't get stuck for too long, I have to take action. And I tried one thing here, another there... I hit some walls... I opened some doors.
However, I had the pattern of trying to do everything by myself, on my own. I felt I didn't have the right to bother others with my own issues.... Besides, I had my pride, and I wanted to show I could do it on my own. It took me many years, many falls, scratches, to the point of even breaking the bank fully, to come to the understandingthat one goes farther taking others along. I learned that it was ok to ask for support, and, above all, that collaboration is key for success!
I'm not saying that you should never thrive to develop your own self and do your own things. What I am saying is, we can be very resourceful, however, we will never be able to master everything. Your weaknesses can be someone's else strength, and vice-versa. And the key to success is to reach out and find ways to collaborate and leverage those. Instead of spending enormous amounts of time trying to fix your weak sides. Honestly, it is a waste of time. Yes, you can always improve some of your down sides, however, very unlikely you will be able to improve them to a level of mastering. Instead, focus on improving and excelling in those areas where your true talents are. Besides, there is where the fun resides!
Strengths or weaknesses, both need support to evolve. Like a musician who needs to be taken by the teacher's hand to be able to hit certain notes, s/he also needs persistence, continuous working, feedback and monitoring to develop and master her talents and skills. We do also need support, mentoring, coaching, and continuous work to develop ours. "Excellence is a habit!", Steven R. Covey once said.
My voice started becoming clear once I reached out for support, and by receiving different feedback and been shown new perspectives, I was able to start listening to myself more clearly, defining my path with more confidence and aligning it to my core values.
A new year is approaching and most of us have at the back of our minds, what's next? What can I do to improve my current situation? What is the impact I want to create in this world? Am I going into the right direction? What do I have to share? ....
If you are asking yourself one of these questions, or any other along the same line, stay with me. I'm here to support you and for that I'm preparing something very special to help you in your process:
Lunch with TL: an offline, and online, conversation with key leaders on topics that will help you to shape and polish your voice.
7 Steps to Shine on Any Stage: my very special Xmas gift to you, to help you have more clarity to start defining your message, to create the impact you have the potential to unleash.
We all have a message to share, and every story matters. There are many other opportunities out there where your message is highly needed. I'm one who has developed a platform to Give Voice to Women! I want to hear your story. Let's work on that. I'm happy to help and support you along the way.